Yes, despair no longer reigns, even though I'm still plenty P.O.'d. Just sent off another e-mail in support of single-payer health care to the whole gamut: the Prez, my Senators, my Congress critter (as Jim Hightower so endearingly calls them -- mine is a rabid right-winger, thanks to Republican gerrymandering of my state which deprives our heavily Democratic city of a rep who is in tune with our beliefs), and more. So, still plugging away. Nor do I intend to desist.
Like Rachel Maddow (nice to do something just like my idol), who has missed two days' work due to a bug, I have been awfully sick for the past four days and am just crawling out from under my rock. A long-standing but not too debilitating (and, unfortunately, constantly repeating) illness was joined by, as my doctor put it Monday morning, an "opportunistic virus" that rocketed me to 102 degrees plus of fever for much of the weekend, complete with chills, sweats, aches -- bleah. Fortunately it burned itself out in less than 48 hours, but it left me very wiped out and the infection has now decided to enter the "cough your lungs out" phase, which means it's coming to an end but after twenty minutes of non-stop coughing, you feel like YOU are coming to an end. And that unhappy circumstance recurs about once every hour and a half, with smaller coughing jags interspersed.
Nonetheless, here I am at my favorite cafe getting ready for a real writing stint on the book, first one in three days plus. So I bid you a fond farewell for now, hope you (anyone who may be reading this) are also plugging away at your representatives at all levels in support of decent, humane, moral and, to top it all off, cheaper health care for all Americans. I haven't given up hope yet. Hail and farewell to Senator Ted Kennedy, whom we will sorely miss on this front, and let us hope his memory will not be dishonored by a patchwork of euphemistic nonsense that does nothing to curb insurance, health care and pharmaceutical corporations' greed or really fix this broken mess that bankrupts you for getting ill if you're not a multi-millionaire. I just read in our local paper that a long-time acquaintance, who has Parkinson's disease, is in danger of being wiped out financially by the cost of her medication alone. This woman has fought for women's rights and other good causes staunchly her whole life long and may now be reduced to abject poverty just because her body has thrown her a whammy. Which is, by any decent standard, plain old WRONG.
Which leaves me to consider: what if my 48-hour bug had been a harbinger of something long-term or permanent? What if I weren't a heterosexual married to someone with a secure job that offers a halfway decent health plan? What if this had been the beginning of not only a terrifying descent into helplessness, but an equally if not more terrifying descent into penury?
Provides me with some real motivation to keep writing, calling and fuming.
More soon from
Sully
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Still Angry
Hello readers, if any --
Haven't cooled off much in the past five days. A nasty ear infection hasn't exactly bettered my mood, and the collective wimpiness of our President and the Democrats is enough to remind me viscerally why I quit the Democratic Party so long ago! If this health care mess turns out to be more window-dressing behind pretty words, I will be more than tempted to barf on the steps of the Capitol, and I certainly will never again be suckered into working for any Democratic Presidential candidate. My finite resources and energy will be put into changing our utterly corrupt political system, instead.
As an object contrast, let me mention that my partner's father in Germany had to go into the hospital very unexpectedly three days ago. If you're not familiar with his situation, he's been on dialysis for 18 of the last 20 years (for two years, he had a transplanted kidney, but then the same virus that destroyed his own kidneys destroyed that one as well). Now, at 78, he is very frail, with osteoporosis as a result of the dialysis (he has broken both hips), but still able to walk and sometimes drive his car.
He suddenly developed a very high fever. Here's the German health system at work. His primary doctor, who lives nearby, came immediately when he was called on the phone and had the patient sent to the emergency room. Within a very short time they were in surgery. It turned out my father-in-law's appendix burst and had infected part of his intestines! He's going to stay in the hospital for quite a few days because his team of doctors know that his wife has a serious heart condition and cannot care for him when he needs lifting, etc.
My father-in-law paid into the German health care system all through his working life and now, as a retiree, continues to pay what we Americans would consider relatively high taxes. But in return, he and his wife and children don't have to worry about going bankrupt or losing the family home due to the costs of 18 years of dialysis and multiple surgeries for broken hips, carpal tunnel, cataracts, appendicitis, and more. Oh, I forgot his wife' s multiple stents and her scheduled open-heart surgery. And the large amount of prescription medication they have to take. Their four children were also able to attend excellent universities (one M.B.A., one medical doctor, one insurance broker, one professor) without having to pay any tuition (only living costs) in Germany. Their tax dollars have really worked for them. Their kids are all self-supporting, and they themselves, though not terribly well-off, are doing O.K. financially.
Contrast the peace of mind with which my in-laws can face surgery with the fear and worry of most Americans, who don't just have to deal with their apprehension about the procedure they're about to undergo, but also have to be terrified of the bills they'll have to pay! I absolutely cannot understand how anyone can think the U.S. system is anything but terminally dysfunctional. The worst thing, to me, is the knee-jerk, know-nothing, spiteful attitude of some who are out there ranting against health care reform: "I have to pay for my plan so nobody should get anything for free!"
Get this straight, people -- you are paying A LOT MORE for the uninsured now than you would under a well-implemented public option. Medicare works -- or it would if the Congress would stop looting its trust fund to pay for their pork -- and so would expanded Medicare, i.e. a single-payer plan. That's all "single-payer" is: Medicare for more people.
Here's the situation: we as a nation are not going to refuse people emergency care in order to cut costs -- we may not give them enough care, or the care they actually need, but they will get SOME kind of care. So all of us who pay taxes are paying local, state and federal taxes to support emergency services. If folks don't have health insurance because they can't afford it, they don't go to the doctor or a hospital until they have no choice, for fear of the expense. And it's much more expensive to have to intervene when someone is acutely ill than it is to give people regular preventive care, like annual check-ups or nutritional advice.
Now, I'm the first to agree that "health care reform" without a public option that cuts out the middle-man costs (the insurance industry's profit -- ugh, for-profit basic health care is SO grotesque and patently immoral) and provides real competition for the "health care industry," "reform" without a guarantee of regular preventive care, and "reform" without requiring some minimal level of cooperation and responsibility on the part of individuals, doesn't make sense. Of course, we can't expect the poor to avoid obesity when across the board, non-nutritious crud costs far less than really GOOD food, and really good food requires more shopping and preparation time as well as more bucks. But if we don't steer in that direction, our country will continue to be saddled with the staggering costs of avoidable chronic illness: some types of diabetes and heart disease leap to mind.
This is probably the last time in my useful lifetime that the United States of America has the chance to become a member of the community of truly civilized nations. If it's done right, it will actually save us all money, and it will remove a huge burden of fear. It will free small business owners from having to face a terrible choice, going out of business or cutting health insurance for loyal long-term employees. It will let the terminally ill concentrate on making the most of the time they have left, without having to dread the financial burden they will bequeathe to their families. It will liberate the many "health care serfs" who are now forced to go on working at jobs they hate, often under totally exploitative conditions, because if they quit, they will lose the health insurance they, their children, their spouse, or their parents need. It will take away a lot of obscene profit from giant insurance companies that have bled all of us to the bone for an unconscionably long time.
Let's do it. Get on the Internet, pick up the phone, take out a piece of paper, sacrifice some stamps and some time. Write your representatives, write anyone whose campaign you gave money to last year or this year. Don't hold back -- tell them you will not tolerate being cheated again. Tell them you will never give them another penny, and even if you can vote for them, you won't. Tell them what this monstrous for-profit non-system of "health care" of ours has done to you, your family members, your friends and neighbors. And give money to that handful of real public servants like Bernie Sanders, the independent Senator from Vermont, who is working 24/7 for the public option.
FIGHT.
If you don't fight, you have only yourselves to blame.
Haven't cooled off much in the past five days. A nasty ear infection hasn't exactly bettered my mood, and the collective wimpiness of our President and the Democrats is enough to remind me viscerally why I quit the Democratic Party so long ago! If this health care mess turns out to be more window-dressing behind pretty words, I will be more than tempted to barf on the steps of the Capitol, and I certainly will never again be suckered into working for any Democratic Presidential candidate. My finite resources and energy will be put into changing our utterly corrupt political system, instead.
As an object contrast, let me mention that my partner's father in Germany had to go into the hospital very unexpectedly three days ago. If you're not familiar with his situation, he's been on dialysis for 18 of the last 20 years (for two years, he had a transplanted kidney, but then the same virus that destroyed his own kidneys destroyed that one as well). Now, at 78, he is very frail, with osteoporosis as a result of the dialysis (he has broken both hips), but still able to walk and sometimes drive his car.
He suddenly developed a very high fever. Here's the German health system at work. His primary doctor, who lives nearby, came immediately when he was called on the phone and had the patient sent to the emergency room. Within a very short time they were in surgery. It turned out my father-in-law's appendix burst and had infected part of his intestines! He's going to stay in the hospital for quite a few days because his team of doctors know that his wife has a serious heart condition and cannot care for him when he needs lifting, etc.
My father-in-law paid into the German health care system all through his working life and now, as a retiree, continues to pay what we Americans would consider relatively high taxes. But in return, he and his wife and children don't have to worry about going bankrupt or losing the family home due to the costs of 18 years of dialysis and multiple surgeries for broken hips, carpal tunnel, cataracts, appendicitis, and more. Oh, I forgot his wife' s multiple stents and her scheduled open-heart surgery. And the large amount of prescription medication they have to take. Their four children were also able to attend excellent universities (one M.B.A., one medical doctor, one insurance broker, one professor) without having to pay any tuition (only living costs) in Germany. Their tax dollars have really worked for them. Their kids are all self-supporting, and they themselves, though not terribly well-off, are doing O.K. financially.
Contrast the peace of mind with which my in-laws can face surgery with the fear and worry of most Americans, who don't just have to deal with their apprehension about the procedure they're about to undergo, but also have to be terrified of the bills they'll have to pay! I absolutely cannot understand how anyone can think the U.S. system is anything but terminally dysfunctional. The worst thing, to me, is the knee-jerk, know-nothing, spiteful attitude of some who are out there ranting against health care reform: "I have to pay for my plan so nobody should get anything for free!"
Get this straight, people -- you are paying A LOT MORE for the uninsured now than you would under a well-implemented public option. Medicare works -- or it would if the Congress would stop looting its trust fund to pay for their pork -- and so would expanded Medicare, i.e. a single-payer plan. That's all "single-payer" is: Medicare for more people.
Here's the situation: we as a nation are not going to refuse people emergency care in order to cut costs -- we may not give them enough care, or the care they actually need, but they will get SOME kind of care. So all of us who pay taxes are paying local, state and federal taxes to support emergency services. If folks don't have health insurance because they can't afford it, they don't go to the doctor or a hospital until they have no choice, for fear of the expense. And it's much more expensive to have to intervene when someone is acutely ill than it is to give people regular preventive care, like annual check-ups or nutritional advice.
Now, I'm the first to agree that "health care reform" without a public option that cuts out the middle-man costs (the insurance industry's profit -- ugh, for-profit basic health care is SO grotesque and patently immoral) and provides real competition for the "health care industry," "reform" without a guarantee of regular preventive care, and "reform" without requiring some minimal level of cooperation and responsibility on the part of individuals, doesn't make sense. Of course, we can't expect the poor to avoid obesity when across the board, non-nutritious crud costs far less than really GOOD food, and really good food requires more shopping and preparation time as well as more bucks. But if we don't steer in that direction, our country will continue to be saddled with the staggering costs of avoidable chronic illness: some types of diabetes and heart disease leap to mind.
This is probably the last time in my useful lifetime that the United States of America has the chance to become a member of the community of truly civilized nations. If it's done right, it will actually save us all money, and it will remove a huge burden of fear. It will free small business owners from having to face a terrible choice, going out of business or cutting health insurance for loyal long-term employees. It will let the terminally ill concentrate on making the most of the time they have left, without having to dread the financial burden they will bequeathe to their families. It will liberate the many "health care serfs" who are now forced to go on working at jobs they hate, often under totally exploitative conditions, because if they quit, they will lose the health insurance they, their children, their spouse, or their parents need. It will take away a lot of obscene profit from giant insurance companies that have bled all of us to the bone for an unconscionably long time.
Let's do it. Get on the Internet, pick up the phone, take out a piece of paper, sacrifice some stamps and some time. Write your representatives, write anyone whose campaign you gave money to last year or this year. Don't hold back -- tell them you will not tolerate being cheated again. Tell them you will never give them another penny, and even if you can vote for them, you won't. Tell them what this monstrous for-profit non-system of "health care" of ours has done to you, your family members, your friends and neighbors. And give money to that handful of real public servants like Bernie Sanders, the independent Senator from Vermont, who is working 24/7 for the public option.
FIGHT.
If you don't fight, you have only yourselves to blame.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Stunned and Disgusted
Well, this is a new low. It seems to me and my spouse as though health care reform is being derailed AGAIN. Our government doesn't have the spine to stand up to a poisonous coalition of misled, hysterical screamers and cynical big-money corporations (insurance, pharmaceuticals, HMOs, you name it). Of course, our political system as it presently operates is with very few exceptions a cat-house where money talks and BS walks.
It's exhausting, frustrating and infuriating. Everyone with any common sense knows that if we don't have a public option, i.e. any real competition for the insurance companies, they will go on colluding, price-fixing and cherry-picking those they insure (that is, using "pre-existing conditions" to make sure they don't end up with seriously ill people on their rosters). The costs of care will keep skyrocketing and this country will continue to be the Dickensian mess it presently is, inspiring mockery and pity in the more civilized world, where citizens have a right not to be bankrupted simply by getting sick.
I've been sending lots of snail-mail and e-mail to politicians I supported financially in the past, chastising the Blue-Dog Democrats (read: Republicans, and not even Republicans-lite) and trying to put some spine in the supposedly real Democrats, but of course my checkbook isn't as fat as the health care industries'. No-one seems to be listening, no-one has any balls, no-one is standing up for justice and to put an end to the outrageous, appalling non-system presently tormenting this country. I'm so fed up, so red-hot angry, I'd think it a relief to run amok.
If I have to stand by and watch the Obama administration, which I worked hard to get into office, pretend we're getting "health care reform" while basically leaving things just as they were, I will vomit, and I will make a point of vomiting on someone who shares responsibility for this terrible failure.
I've learned a dreadful thing: that this country is so bought and sold, so totally owned by the big corporations, that there probably is no hope for justice or even plain old common sense to prevail. And putting all my energy into a third party, as I've done in the past, will do no good at all if the entire election system continues to revolve around nothing but the no longer so almighty dollar.
I'm over fifty years old and look at this mess. Women still don't have a firm guarantee of the same civil rights as men (no Equal Rights Amendment). We have to go on forever fighting the tacitly tolerated domestic terrorists (the anti-choicers) to preserve a shadow of abortion rights, trying to make sure that the lives of girls and women aren't derailed because of unplanned pregnancies. If biology can be used to keep women down, it doesn't seem to matter that unwanted children are a recipe for long-term social disaster.
Speaking of social disasters, homophobia and racism still run rampant. This country is so desperately immature and willfully unthinking that many of its denizens remain obsessed with trying to make every couple look like Ken and Barbie, instead of realizing that full legal protection for stable unions, same-sex or opposite-sex, is good for everyone. And let's not even get into the fact that arduous legal struggles were necessary to so much as allow veterans' graves to be marked with the symbol of their Pagan beliefs. Ironically, for us straight white folks, the way to instantly and viscerally find out what discrimination is all about is to be up front about not being Christian. Of course, being a woman, I did already have some idea of what it's like to be considered automatically inferior. But I'm the first to admit that the flak I've faced, though real, doesn't measure up to what people of color or lesbians and gays have to endure.
Well, I'm sure I won't feel this desperate forever, but right now the idea of spending the rest of my days overwhelmed by the stupid, the bigoted, the corrupt and the venal is bloody unattractive, and the feeling of disillusionment about this president and government is bitter indeed, though part of me always expected it. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and the corporations continue to find ways to divide and conquer and manipulate the comparatively poor to get out there and make their own situation constantly worse by indulging their knee-jerk prejudices rather than being aware of what would really serve their interests.
Ugh.
It's exhausting, frustrating and infuriating. Everyone with any common sense knows that if we don't have a public option, i.e. any real competition for the insurance companies, they will go on colluding, price-fixing and cherry-picking those they insure (that is, using "pre-existing conditions" to make sure they don't end up with seriously ill people on their rosters). The costs of care will keep skyrocketing and this country will continue to be the Dickensian mess it presently is, inspiring mockery and pity in the more civilized world, where citizens have a right not to be bankrupted simply by getting sick.
I've been sending lots of snail-mail and e-mail to politicians I supported financially in the past, chastising the Blue-Dog Democrats (read: Republicans, and not even Republicans-lite) and trying to put some spine in the supposedly real Democrats, but of course my checkbook isn't as fat as the health care industries'. No-one seems to be listening, no-one has any balls, no-one is standing up for justice and to put an end to the outrageous, appalling non-system presently tormenting this country. I'm so fed up, so red-hot angry, I'd think it a relief to run amok.
If I have to stand by and watch the Obama administration, which I worked hard to get into office, pretend we're getting "health care reform" while basically leaving things just as they were, I will vomit, and I will make a point of vomiting on someone who shares responsibility for this terrible failure.
I've learned a dreadful thing: that this country is so bought and sold, so totally owned by the big corporations, that there probably is no hope for justice or even plain old common sense to prevail. And putting all my energy into a third party, as I've done in the past, will do no good at all if the entire election system continues to revolve around nothing but the no longer so almighty dollar.
I'm over fifty years old and look at this mess. Women still don't have a firm guarantee of the same civil rights as men (no Equal Rights Amendment). We have to go on forever fighting the tacitly tolerated domestic terrorists (the anti-choicers) to preserve a shadow of abortion rights, trying to make sure that the lives of girls and women aren't derailed because of unplanned pregnancies. If biology can be used to keep women down, it doesn't seem to matter that unwanted children are a recipe for long-term social disaster.
Speaking of social disasters, homophobia and racism still run rampant. This country is so desperately immature and willfully unthinking that many of its denizens remain obsessed with trying to make every couple look like Ken and Barbie, instead of realizing that full legal protection for stable unions, same-sex or opposite-sex, is good for everyone. And let's not even get into the fact that arduous legal struggles were necessary to so much as allow veterans' graves to be marked with the symbol of their Pagan beliefs. Ironically, for us straight white folks, the way to instantly and viscerally find out what discrimination is all about is to be up front about not being Christian. Of course, being a woman, I did already have some idea of what it's like to be considered automatically inferior. But I'm the first to admit that the flak I've faced, though real, doesn't measure up to what people of color or lesbians and gays have to endure.
Well, I'm sure I won't feel this desperate forever, but right now the idea of spending the rest of my days overwhelmed by the stupid, the bigoted, the corrupt and the venal is bloody unattractive, and the feeling of disillusionment about this president and government is bitter indeed, though part of me always expected it. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and the corporations continue to find ways to divide and conquer and manipulate the comparatively poor to get out there and make their own situation constantly worse by indulging their knee-jerk prejudices rather than being aware of what would really serve their interests.
Ugh.
Friday, August 7, 2009
Bastion of Civilized Values
Hello readers, if any --
No apologies for the long "radio silence." I was on the road from May 21 to July 20, pretty much non-stop. Up the East Coast in my Smart car (a really fun ride, 980 miles in one day!), three days at my college reunion (including a stint as the most out-of-shape duffer in a racing four with coxswain, my hands shredded after 6 miles at the oar), four and a half weeks traveling around China, then a drive back down the East Coast (with three suitcases, two small bags, two carry bags, a cooler, 13 rolls of wrapping paper and a few more miscellaneous items, plus myself, successfully stowed in my Smart car such that I could still see out the rear-view mirror, a miracle), and then after a few days' respite another two days in airplanes so I could be in Lisbon, Portugal with my beloved to help him celebrate a big birthday. (He had just finished a conference there.)
I'm also cranking madly away at my book manuscript, which I must complete by October 6. That's when I hit the road again, to visit my in-laws, chauffeur my mother around Germany to see her family and friends, and then, only a day after my return home, to go to Disney (yes, I know, but it's fun for kids) with two 10-year-old girls. It's a tradition for us to take our goddess-kids to the Magic Kingdom when they turn 10, if their parents don't take them there first. After these two, there's only one more to go, three years from now.
I had to pipe up at least briefly, however, in response to the current brouhaha, which is in my opinion only peripherally about health care. The gross and cynical way in which the Republicans and the corporate interests are conniving to use frightened, uninformed, and hysterical people to disrupt public debate and try to bring down any attempt to make health care available to all Americans is beyond disgusting. This is where we who are not susceptible to being buffaloed have to stand up and create what is referred to in one of my favorite books, "Murder at the MLA," as a Bastion of Civilized Values. I don't care how busy you are. Turn on your TV and make yourself watch Rachel Maddow (9 p.m., MSNBC, Mon to Fri) or Keith Olbermann (8 p.m., MSNBC, Mon to Fri). You'll find it's not a penance, especially, in my opinion, Rachel, who totally rocks. Read a newspaper, online if not in print. This will tell you what's going on and who the chief sleazebags are. Then get on the Internet or write a piece of snail-mail to your own Congressperson and Senators, letting them know that you support the public option and health care reform and you intend not to vote for anyone who doesn't. I also exhort you to contact at least one of the so-called "blue dog" Democrats, who are playing repugnant footsie with the Republicans and the corporate profit-grubbers on this issue, and make it clear that you know who they are and you are revolted by their selling out of their constituents for the almighty lobbyist dollar.
I just did so in the case of Claire McCaskill, who I'm sorry to say I gave money to for her 2008 campaign. Blanche Lincoln of Nebraska is another case in point. Women who are putting the health care industries' (insurers, nursing homes, for-profit hospitals, etc.) dollars before the welfare of American citizens. Ugh. As though the men weren't bad enough.
Anyway, if we don't stand up and make ourselves heard now, we will be stuck with this disgrace, this shameful mess of a health care "system" (it's not a system, it's a maze) for the rest of at least my natural life. While the rest of the industrialized world manages to provide good, sensible care to all their citizens, we would go on letting millions of children go without regular medical checkups, letting family after family go bankrupt because of catastrophic illness. I remember all too well watching a dear friend die of brain cancer, unable to focus on spending what little time she had left with her family because she was worrying about the debts she would be leaving them. This is awful, reprehensible, and beneath us and it has to stop. IMMEDIATELY. Health care for profit is something we all know in our guts is morally wrong. It's the absolute contrary of a caring community, a society that is healthy in every way that counts.
ENOUGH. Fight!
No apologies for the long "radio silence." I was on the road from May 21 to July 20, pretty much non-stop. Up the East Coast in my Smart car (a really fun ride, 980 miles in one day!), three days at my college reunion (including a stint as the most out-of-shape duffer in a racing four with coxswain, my hands shredded after 6 miles at the oar), four and a half weeks traveling around China, then a drive back down the East Coast (with three suitcases, two small bags, two carry bags, a cooler, 13 rolls of wrapping paper and a few more miscellaneous items, plus myself, successfully stowed in my Smart car such that I could still see out the rear-view mirror, a miracle), and then after a few days' respite another two days in airplanes so I could be in Lisbon, Portugal with my beloved to help him celebrate a big birthday. (He had just finished a conference there.)
I'm also cranking madly away at my book manuscript, which I must complete by October 6. That's when I hit the road again, to visit my in-laws, chauffeur my mother around Germany to see her family and friends, and then, only a day after my return home, to go to Disney (yes, I know, but it's fun for kids) with two 10-year-old girls. It's a tradition for us to take our goddess-kids to the Magic Kingdom when they turn 10, if their parents don't take them there first. After these two, there's only one more to go, three years from now.
I had to pipe up at least briefly, however, in response to the current brouhaha, which is in my opinion only peripherally about health care. The gross and cynical way in which the Republicans and the corporate interests are conniving to use frightened, uninformed, and hysterical people to disrupt public debate and try to bring down any attempt to make health care available to all Americans is beyond disgusting. This is where we who are not susceptible to being buffaloed have to stand up and create what is referred to in one of my favorite books, "Murder at the MLA," as a Bastion of Civilized Values. I don't care how busy you are. Turn on your TV and make yourself watch Rachel Maddow (9 p.m., MSNBC, Mon to Fri) or Keith Olbermann (8 p.m., MSNBC, Mon to Fri). You'll find it's not a penance, especially, in my opinion, Rachel, who totally rocks. Read a newspaper, online if not in print. This will tell you what's going on and who the chief sleazebags are. Then get on the Internet or write a piece of snail-mail to your own Congressperson and Senators, letting them know that you support the public option and health care reform and you intend not to vote for anyone who doesn't. I also exhort you to contact at least one of the so-called "blue dog" Democrats, who are playing repugnant footsie with the Republicans and the corporate profit-grubbers on this issue, and make it clear that you know who they are and you are revolted by their selling out of their constituents for the almighty lobbyist dollar.
I just did so in the case of Claire McCaskill, who I'm sorry to say I gave money to for her 2008 campaign. Blanche Lincoln of Nebraska is another case in point. Women who are putting the health care industries' (insurers, nursing homes, for-profit hospitals, etc.) dollars before the welfare of American citizens. Ugh. As though the men weren't bad enough.
Anyway, if we don't stand up and make ourselves heard now, we will be stuck with this disgrace, this shameful mess of a health care "system" (it's not a system, it's a maze) for the rest of at least my natural life. While the rest of the industrialized world manages to provide good, sensible care to all their citizens, we would go on letting millions of children go without regular medical checkups, letting family after family go bankrupt because of catastrophic illness. I remember all too well watching a dear friend die of brain cancer, unable to focus on spending what little time she had left with her family because she was worrying about the debts she would be leaving them. This is awful, reprehensible, and beneath us and it has to stop. IMMEDIATELY. Health care for profit is something we all know in our guts is morally wrong. It's the absolute contrary of a caring community, a society that is healthy in every way that counts.
ENOUGH. Fight!
Friday, May 1, 2009
Sully in One-derland
It's a very odd thing when your partner has to go away for a long period of time and you're deprived of all the usual benefits: company, a sounding board, someone whose schedule, willy-nilly, helps determine yours. My partner of more than 22 years is literally on the other side of the globe, and it's taken a week to find a not yet totally acceptable interim rhythm. Work is getting done, but not as organizedly as I would like, and the lack of his breathing in our king bed is very bad for my night's rest. Even sleeping pills lose their effectiveness sometime during the night, and every house noise seems doubly ominous. A cat fight outside the house at about 6 a.m. today was almost a relief, as I could immediately identify the sounds of feline disagreement and stop worrying about them.
Beltane as a temporary single is a particularly odd experience. I quite joyfully cleaned and re-decorated my altar yesterday, on May Eve, burning some amber resin (with opened window so the fire alarm wouldn't put the kibosh on the festivity). But it's disorienting to have no-one with whom to share a chalice of pomegranate wine, or to spoil with some May Day treat, caloric or otherwise.
Still, self-discipline is not exactly foreign to me, so it's stay on the wagon in terms of starches, sugars and alcohol (one glass of wine a day, max), and keep plugging away at the long list of things to be accomplished before my beloved's return. This will be the longest time we've been apart since we married, nonetheless, it will pass quickly, these intervals always do. It's up to me to make the most and best of it, so that we join each other again from strength as well as in mutual want and need. That's the message I take from Beltane this year. Ground yourself, re-create yourself, because you are always a unique "one" in partnership as well as part of two, and if either partner loses themselves, the union is weakened, becomes uneven, lopsided.
"Tine Bealtaine!", everyone, to quote the Celtic. And if you've never heard the track of that name by the Pagan band Omnia, I highly recommend you remedy that oversight!
Beltane as a temporary single is a particularly odd experience. I quite joyfully cleaned and re-decorated my altar yesterday, on May Eve, burning some amber resin (with opened window so the fire alarm wouldn't put the kibosh on the festivity). But it's disorienting to have no-one with whom to share a chalice of pomegranate wine, or to spoil with some May Day treat, caloric or otherwise.
Still, self-discipline is not exactly foreign to me, so it's stay on the wagon in terms of starches, sugars and alcohol (one glass of wine a day, max), and keep plugging away at the long list of things to be accomplished before my beloved's return. This will be the longest time we've been apart since we married, nonetheless, it will pass quickly, these intervals always do. It's up to me to make the most and best of it, so that we join each other again from strength as well as in mutual want and need. That's the message I take from Beltane this year. Ground yourself, re-create yourself, because you are always a unique "one" in partnership as well as part of two, and if either partner loses themselves, the union is weakened, becomes uneven, lopsided.
"Tine Bealtaine!", everyone, to quote the Celtic. And if you've never heard the track of that name by the Pagan band Omnia, I highly recommend you remedy that oversight!
Monday, April 6, 2009
Not-So-Great Expectations
It's a Catch-22, in my opinion. A vast number of unreflected bigots out there believe that gays and lesbians are immoral simply because they are gay or lesbian. Where does this hugely wrong idea come from? I would argue that it's an inextricable aspect of patriarchy, which we still live in, somewhat diluted though it is.
Patriarchy in its undiluted form, which remains the basis of our social order, insists on rigidly separate gender roles which are meant to underscore its fundamental(ist) concept, male superiority. Everything is set up in neat (and oversimplified) dualisms. Every characteristic a person possesses is labeled "masculine" or "feminine," and these characteristics are traditionally presented as overdetermined "opposites." "Rational" versus "irrational," "strong" versus "gentle," "aggressive" versus "submissive," and so on and so forth ad nauseam. And for every one of this infinite series of dyads, the one labeled "female" or "feminine" is seen as inherently inferior to the one labeled "male" or "masculine," even if the consequences of either "masculine" or "feminine" concepts running amok, unleavened, are quite obviously destructive to the entire society. And even though it's quite obvious to any person with common sense that everybody has traits of both kinds, as well as others that don't fit neatly under either rubric.
Rigid policing of gender roles starts at birth, as many a classic experiment has shown. Boy babies are identified with the color blue (true blue), girl babies with the color pink (soft, gentle, unthreatening). Instead of being dressed in practical, unisex baby clothes, colors for boys and girls remain, on the whole, quite gendered. You'll hardly ever see a boy baby in any item of clothing featuring a floral print, and very few girl babies will be decked out in overalls embroidered with trucks and earth movers. You'll see more of the latter than the former, because for a girl to be a tomboy means she's aspiring to the higher order, while gods forbid a boy embrace anything "girly," be a "sissy"! People play more actively and roughly with boy babies while girls are coddled and cuddled and carefully kept away from harm (and a lot of learning experiences). Boys are stifled emotionally very early on, while girls' emotions are sometimes overdeveloped by constant indulgence. Names, colors, how we're treated -- we're pushed to embody one or the other gender role or gender type from Day One.
I feel for gay and lesbian kids. Even if they're lucky enough to have parents who don't think homosexuality is intrinsically wrong, they're surrounded by a society pervaded by homophobia. Long before we're old enough to be able to critically analyze the ideas with which we're bombarded, we're overwhelmed by a tide of prejudice and stereotypes. Elementary school kids -- sometimes even kindergarten or playschool kids -- already know that if you're called "fag," it isn't a compliment. They know it's a swear-word long before they have any idea what it means.
Children are shaped by what is expected of them. This is basic psychology. And our society, on the whole, tells gay and lesbian kids that they are abnormal, wrong, sick, perverted, pretty much doomed. At its most "positive," it makes them feel that they have to fit into a set of gay and lesbian stereotypes: gay men are all supposed to be sissy, lesbians are all supposed to be butch. In other words, if you're a gay man, you're supposed to tend toward the "female" stereotype, while lesbians are supposed to resemble the "male" one. No room for full development of one's true individual characteristics, whether you happen to be gay or straight. But for homosexual youth, the added, huge burden of being assumed to be morally inferior. And this not-so-great expectation is reinforced by ongoing, massive legal discrimination.
It's so incredibly obvious to me that separate can never be equal. "Allowing" gay or lesbian couples "civil unions" isn't a generous gesture, it's a means for the condescending majority to reinforce the idea that their partnerships are at best less than marriages. What presumption! We in the United States are raised with the notion that our country is the best, in every way. Right. The truth of the matter is that a goodly number of industrialized Western nations, including our neighbor to the north, Canada, are light-years ahead of us in terms of eliminating legalized bigotry against gays and lesbians. In much of Canada, gays and lesbians have been able to marry for years. They can also marry in Spain, home of the Spanish Inquisition! And even Britain, from which we inherited much of our knee-jerk homophobia, has dropped any form of "gay ban" in its armed forces. I had to laugh when I read that an American reporter covering a story about "gay integration" in the Dutch army -- Holland is another nation that's way ahead of us on this score -- asked some Dutch soldiers if they weren't concerned about having to share a tent with their openly gay captain. "Sure," they answered. "He snores!"
Sometimes I get very frustrated with my beloved country. There's so much blinkered religious dogma, unconsidered, self-righteous bigotry, an apparent total unwillingness to stop wasting energy on labeling, segregating and hurting people because of how and whom they love. Just think what we could do if we had all the energy at our disposal that's now being squandered on policing gender boundaries, trying to enact legislation that actually worsens legalized discrimination. Why do people think they should be able to force anyone "different" to live a lie, either depriving them of rights or making what limited rights they do have (or their ability to keep their job, live in their home, etc.) contingent on how well they pretend to be someone they're not? It's exactly as Harry Truman (not a past U.S. president I entirely love, but a man with a lot of good sense) said about racial discrimination: "For every black man you want to keep in the gutter, there'll have to be a white man in the gutter to keep him there." We need to wake up and realize that as long as our society continues to prescribe second-class status for gays and lesbians, and preach hate at them, the whole of the society will remain much less than it could be. Time to stop judging by sexual preference or orientation, and start setting our sights on the goal of making ourselves better individuals and making our country the truly great place it might become.
Patriarchy in its undiluted form, which remains the basis of our social order, insists on rigidly separate gender roles which are meant to underscore its fundamental(ist) concept, male superiority. Everything is set up in neat (and oversimplified) dualisms. Every characteristic a person possesses is labeled "masculine" or "feminine," and these characteristics are traditionally presented as overdetermined "opposites." "Rational" versus "irrational," "strong" versus "gentle," "aggressive" versus "submissive," and so on and so forth ad nauseam. And for every one of this infinite series of dyads, the one labeled "female" or "feminine" is seen as inherently inferior to the one labeled "male" or "masculine," even if the consequences of either "masculine" or "feminine" concepts running amok, unleavened, are quite obviously destructive to the entire society. And even though it's quite obvious to any person with common sense that everybody has traits of both kinds, as well as others that don't fit neatly under either rubric.
Rigid policing of gender roles starts at birth, as many a classic experiment has shown. Boy babies are identified with the color blue (true blue), girl babies with the color pink (soft, gentle, unthreatening). Instead of being dressed in practical, unisex baby clothes, colors for boys and girls remain, on the whole, quite gendered. You'll hardly ever see a boy baby in any item of clothing featuring a floral print, and very few girl babies will be decked out in overalls embroidered with trucks and earth movers. You'll see more of the latter than the former, because for a girl to be a tomboy means she's aspiring to the higher order, while gods forbid a boy embrace anything "girly," be a "sissy"! People play more actively and roughly with boy babies while girls are coddled and cuddled and carefully kept away from harm (and a lot of learning experiences). Boys are stifled emotionally very early on, while girls' emotions are sometimes overdeveloped by constant indulgence. Names, colors, how we're treated -- we're pushed to embody one or the other gender role or gender type from Day One.
I feel for gay and lesbian kids. Even if they're lucky enough to have parents who don't think homosexuality is intrinsically wrong, they're surrounded by a society pervaded by homophobia. Long before we're old enough to be able to critically analyze the ideas with which we're bombarded, we're overwhelmed by a tide of prejudice and stereotypes. Elementary school kids -- sometimes even kindergarten or playschool kids -- already know that if you're called "fag," it isn't a compliment. They know it's a swear-word long before they have any idea what it means.
Children are shaped by what is expected of them. This is basic psychology. And our society, on the whole, tells gay and lesbian kids that they are abnormal, wrong, sick, perverted, pretty much doomed. At its most "positive," it makes them feel that they have to fit into a set of gay and lesbian stereotypes: gay men are all supposed to be sissy, lesbians are all supposed to be butch. In other words, if you're a gay man, you're supposed to tend toward the "female" stereotype, while lesbians are supposed to resemble the "male" one. No room for full development of one's true individual characteristics, whether you happen to be gay or straight. But for homosexual youth, the added, huge burden of being assumed to be morally inferior. And this not-so-great expectation is reinforced by ongoing, massive legal discrimination.
It's so incredibly obvious to me that separate can never be equal. "Allowing" gay or lesbian couples "civil unions" isn't a generous gesture, it's a means for the condescending majority to reinforce the idea that their partnerships are at best less than marriages. What presumption! We in the United States are raised with the notion that our country is the best, in every way. Right. The truth of the matter is that a goodly number of industrialized Western nations, including our neighbor to the north, Canada, are light-years ahead of us in terms of eliminating legalized bigotry against gays and lesbians. In much of Canada, gays and lesbians have been able to marry for years. They can also marry in Spain, home of the Spanish Inquisition! And even Britain, from which we inherited much of our knee-jerk homophobia, has dropped any form of "gay ban" in its armed forces. I had to laugh when I read that an American reporter covering a story about "gay integration" in the Dutch army -- Holland is another nation that's way ahead of us on this score -- asked some Dutch soldiers if they weren't concerned about having to share a tent with their openly gay captain. "Sure," they answered. "He snores!"
Sometimes I get very frustrated with my beloved country. There's so much blinkered religious dogma, unconsidered, self-righteous bigotry, an apparent total unwillingness to stop wasting energy on labeling, segregating and hurting people because of how and whom they love. Just think what we could do if we had all the energy at our disposal that's now being squandered on policing gender boundaries, trying to enact legislation that actually worsens legalized discrimination. Why do people think they should be able to force anyone "different" to live a lie, either depriving them of rights or making what limited rights they do have (or their ability to keep their job, live in their home, etc.) contingent on how well they pretend to be someone they're not? It's exactly as Harry Truman (not a past U.S. president I entirely love, but a man with a lot of good sense) said about racial discrimination: "For every black man you want to keep in the gutter, there'll have to be a white man in the gutter to keep him there." We need to wake up and realize that as long as our society continues to prescribe second-class status for gays and lesbians, and preach hate at them, the whole of the society will remain much less than it could be. Time to stop judging by sexual preference or orientation, and start setting our sights on the goal of making ourselves better individuals and making our country the truly great place it might become.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
What Difference Does It Make?
Well, posts will be few and far between, it seems. But the topic of the last one remains very pertinent, since yesterday saw the courts of the state of Iowa OK same-sex marriage. I always thought Iowa had more than its share of common sense, and it's nice to have that confirmed. One of my favorite people in the world grew up in Iowa, though I fear her very fervent Catholicism may put her on the other side of this issue (she may well surprise me though, she has before!).
Anyway, I'm still with Keith Olbermann in his famous Special Comment on the horrific Proposition 8 in California last year (see "What Is It To You?" post, November 2008). What difference does it make to anyone if someone else chooses to be happy in a different way? If two people are responsible and respectful and faithful to each other, who cares if they are of different genders or not? How does the same-sex marriage of two people damage the heterosexual marriage of two others who don't even know them? Why do we need to gin up tons of energy and create tons of bad feeling on this issue?
I've read the whole bible and Jesus said nothing at all about gays (let alone lesbians). The few repudiations or condemnations of homosexual behavior in the Old Testament seem to focus on temple prostitution, which was part of the religions of some of the Jews' pagan neighbors. The men of Sodom who threaten to gang-rape Lot's guests in one incident are out to show their disrespect for and power over the "strangers," and are condemned for violating the laws of hospitality in general. (When Lot offers to send out his virgin daughters to be raped instead, no one seems to think that is out of line, either!) And the quote that all the bigots harp on, about men not being allowed to "lie with" other men as they do with women, is in my opinion the contribution of a writer freaked out about (a) the idea that a man, in patriarchy, is being "used" like women are "supposed to be" used and (b) the very notion of non-procreative sex, i.e. sex that can't result in a baby.
Well, we are, I hope, in a declining patriarchy where sex is no longer exclusively a sphere in which we re-enact patriarchal power relations (i.e., men on top). We are also on a planet which is over-populated to a critical extent, and should be grateful when people of whatever sexual persuasion express their sexuality without abetting the population explosion!
I remain true to my previously stated opinion that sexual preference does not determine character. There is nothing intrinsically immoral or dirty or shameful about feeling attracted to someone of your own gender. It's immoral to cheat someone, anyone, whom you supposedly love, it's immoral to lie to them or put them at risk, it's immoral to treat them irresponsibly, disrespectfully and cruelly. But what's most immoral, plain downright wrong, is discriminating against people on the basis of whom they love, preventing them from enjoying full civil rights and all the legal and financial protections and safeguards of marriage. I will stand by that until I die.
Anyway, I'm still with Keith Olbermann in his famous Special Comment on the horrific Proposition 8 in California last year (see "What Is It To You?" post, November 2008). What difference does it make to anyone if someone else chooses to be happy in a different way? If two people are responsible and respectful and faithful to each other, who cares if they are of different genders or not? How does the same-sex marriage of two people damage the heterosexual marriage of two others who don't even know them? Why do we need to gin up tons of energy and create tons of bad feeling on this issue?
I've read the whole bible and Jesus said nothing at all about gays (let alone lesbians). The few repudiations or condemnations of homosexual behavior in the Old Testament seem to focus on temple prostitution, which was part of the religions of some of the Jews' pagan neighbors. The men of Sodom who threaten to gang-rape Lot's guests in one incident are out to show their disrespect for and power over the "strangers," and are condemned for violating the laws of hospitality in general. (When Lot offers to send out his virgin daughters to be raped instead, no one seems to think that is out of line, either!) And the quote that all the bigots harp on, about men not being allowed to "lie with" other men as they do with women, is in my opinion the contribution of a writer freaked out about (a) the idea that a man, in patriarchy, is being "used" like women are "supposed to be" used and (b) the very notion of non-procreative sex, i.e. sex that can't result in a baby.
Well, we are, I hope, in a declining patriarchy where sex is no longer exclusively a sphere in which we re-enact patriarchal power relations (i.e., men on top). We are also on a planet which is over-populated to a critical extent, and should be grateful when people of whatever sexual persuasion express their sexuality without abetting the population explosion!
I remain true to my previously stated opinion that sexual preference does not determine character. There is nothing intrinsically immoral or dirty or shameful about feeling attracted to someone of your own gender. It's immoral to cheat someone, anyone, whom you supposedly love, it's immoral to lie to them or put them at risk, it's immoral to treat them irresponsibly, disrespectfully and cruelly. But what's most immoral, plain downright wrong, is discriminating against people on the basis of whom they love, preventing them from enjoying full civil rights and all the legal and financial protections and safeguards of marriage. I will stand by that until I die.
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